Wednesday, December 08, 2010

Questions are the Answers - for a happier life

I'm finally having my 'real' semester break after back from 3 days Youth Defined ETP/GTP in KL. It's an awesome seminar with youth leaders across Malaysia. A lot of inputs and outputs have been produced. Will talk about it in another post. 

Now it's the best time to get some reading at home.  

I've bought this book, like 2 years ago, what Anthony Robbins writes inside never fails to impress me. 

Reading Chapter 8 moments earlier has broaden my perspective and would like to share here with you. 

Many often we are not satisfied on current life, feel unhappy, emotionally unstable and having relationships problems; have you ever thought this is because we ask the wrong questions? 


If we want to change the quality of our lives, we should change our habitual questions. 

We need to realize, what we do mostly day in and day out, is ask and answer questions. 

Remember, ask and you shall receive. If you ask a terrible question, you'll get a terrible answer. 

So if you ask, "Why can't I ever succeed?", it will tell you, "Because you're stupid," or "Because you don't deserve to do well"

But if you try to ask, "How can I succeed?", "What I can do to succeed?", the outcome will be totally different. 

Google relationships

Questions determine everything you do in life, from your abilities to your relationships to your income. For example, many people fail to commit in relationships simply because they keep asking questions that create doubt: "What if there's somebody better out there? What if I commit myself now and miss out?" 

What terribly disempowering question! 

Sometimes these same people destroy the relationships with more horrible questions: "How come you always do this to me?" "Why don't you appreciate me?" "What if I were to leave right now - how would that make you feel?" 

Compare this with:- 

"How did I get so lucky to have you in my life?" "What do I love most about my husband/wife? How much better will our lives be as a result of our relationships?" 

Same goes to persons who ain't doing well financially.

They ask questions like "What toys do I want right now? instead of "What plan do I need in order to achieve my ultimate financial goal?" 

The questions you ask will determine where you focus, how you think, how you feel, and what you do. 

This shapes your destiny. 

And we can actually change how we feel in an instant, just by changing our focus! 

Stop asking "How come I'm so depressed?" or "Why doesn't anybody like me?" as you will focus on and look for references to back up the idea that there is a reason to feel unloved or sad. 

Try something like this, ask yourself "What are my most happy memories?" or "What's really great in my life right now?". You'll not only feel better but be able to contribute more to those around you! 

If you're feeling really sad, there is only one reason: 

It's because you're deleting all the reasons you could be feeling good. 

And if you're feeling good, you're deleting all the bad things you could be focusing on! 

Flickr photo by -Gep-

So, start asking empowering question to yourself right now. 

Every morning when you wake up, ask some of these questions: 

1. What am I happy in my life now? 
2. What am I excited in my life now?
3. What am I proud in my life now?
4. What am I grateful in my life now?
5. What am I enjoying most in my life now?
6. What am I committed to in my life right now?
7. Who I love? Who loves me? 

In the evening, ask these 3 questions:

1. What have I given today?
2. What did I learn today?
3. How has today added to the quality of my life or how can I use today as an investment in my future? 

"Some men see things as they are, and say, 
    I dream of things that never were, and say, 
                                                  "Why not?"     - George Bernard Shaw

1 comment:

hooiyee said...

this is superb impressive wilson ! i cant help to hide my praise to this post>_< u understood well about what he said in the book.n u have the very right energy n thinking. salute Wilson!!


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